May 9, 2016

Hey Friends!

Today, Em and I want to share something that had a big impact on the way we think about ourselves. We first heard this from a seminar with Cheri Huber and Neil Strauss.

The next time you are alone, take out your phone and record a love letter to yourself. Say out-loud everything that you love about yourself: your ambitions, your purpose, your strengths, ways you are kind, ways you inspire others, etc.

THEN, listen to it.

Listen to it several times over the course of a week. When you do this, you'll notice something incredible.

We often go to external sources for praise, acceptance, and confirmation. To feel okay with our lives, we need other people to tell us how good of a job we did, how awesome we are, and how much they love us. 

What if we heard these things from ourselves for a change? Have you ever heard, in your own voice, the praise you are seeking from the outside world? 

Even if you do this exercise through writing or meditation, give the recording a try. There is something extremely powerful about hearing praise in your own voice. 

Enjoy this challenge,

Alex & Em

Check out last week's post: I Sat On The Floor Of A Crowded Starbucks And Sang A Song. Here's Why...

May 2, 2016

Happy Mindful Monday!

Last week we challenged you to notice your language and to pay attention to the words you use on a regular basis. We have a good one for you this week...

Challenge Your Beliefs.

Take a belief you've held for a long time and pretend you believe in the exact opposite for a few minutes. Notice how you feel when you do this. The belief you choose can be related to religion, politics, education, gender, medicine, or just life in general. The stronger your belief, the more effective this exercise will be.

  • If you are a Bernie supporter, put yourself in the shoes of a Trump supporter.
  • If you believe in God, put yourself in the shoes of an Athiest. 
  • If you are pro-life, pretend you are pro-choice.

Does just reading those stir up some feelings? Most of us believe strongly in one side of the coin, but when it comes to the opposite, we let our emotions control us. 

There is no right or wrong here, regardless of how insane that may seem. People believe the things they do based on an incredible amount of factors, most of which they couldn't control while growing up. If someone else grew up with your parents, friends, house, siblings, teachers, coaches, and mentors, they'd likely believe what you do.

And likewise, if you grew up with the exact circumstances of a person with an opposing view, you'd believe what they do. Our beliefs are so strongly ingrained in us that we can't possibly believe someone could believe the opposite. Try to understand where these people are coming from. You can learn a lot about yourself and the people around you with this simple exercise. 

Enjoy this challenge,

Alex & Em

Check out last week's post: 8 Celebrities Using Meditation to Cultivate Success

April 25, 2016

Last week we challenged you to wait patiently and mindfully. This week, our challenge is this:

Notice your language and become aware of the words you use on a regular basis. 

Each word has an energetic resonance that the subconscious minds feeds off. Choose verbiage that feeds the subconscious the healthiest diet possible.  

  • "Don't be late for work!" 
  • "You shouldn't eat that cheeseburger."
  • "You can't..."

We hear statements like these all the time; they're said to us with the best intentions. But, they are completely unhelpful and actually, counterproductive. 

Words like "don't", "can't", and "shouldn't" are the equivalent of junk food for the subconscious mind. 

When you tell a kid, "Don't be late for the bus," two things happen:

  1. He visualizes himself being late for the bus.
  2. His subconscious registers the thought as negative.

The kid is now way more likely to be late for the bus. And then, when he is late, you become angry towards him for a thought you initially put in his head! 

Instead, say, "Be 5 minutes early for the bus tomorrow."

Start feeding your mind and the mind's of others with healthy, productive, and positive words, so that the emotions, actions, and outcomes can follow suit. 

Cheers,
Alex & Em

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April 18, 2016

Happy Mindful Monday!

Last week we challenged you to become aware of the arising of desire. This week, our challenge is this:

Wait... 
patiently and mindfully. 


Any time you find yourself waiting- when you’re in line at a store, waiting for someone who’s late, or waiting for the little spinning “please wait” icon on your computer screen to go away- take this opportunity to practice mindfulness, meditation, gratitude, or prayer.

"What if you were to practice being on the lookout for moments of waiting in the day? In those moments, instead of grabbing something to fill the space, you recognized it as an opportunity to be okay with just waiting."
- Elisha Goldstein of mindfulness.org

Leave a comment about this week's challenge on the new Mindful Monday page! 

Happy waiting,

Alex & Em

April 11, 2019

Last week we challenged you to listen like your life depends on it. This week, our challenge is this:

Reach out to someone who has made a positive impact on your life and thank them.

This message of appreciation can be sent in the form of an email, text message, phone call, or ever be said in person. It can be sent to an old friend, teacher, coach, family member, or really, anyone you think deserves a little bit of praise!

You'd be surprised by how much this small message can mean to the person receiving it. You might find that just by reaching out to someone, you can rekindle a past relationship.

*Your message DOES NOT have to be super deep, emotional, or fluffy.

"Feeling gratitude and not expressing it is like wrapping a present and not giving it." 
- William Arthur Ward

Here's a message Em sent to her high school math teacher...

Have fun getting your gratitude on :)

Alex & Em

April 4, 2016

Last week we challenged you to reach out to someone who has made a positive impact on your life and thank them. This week, our challenge is this:

Perform a secret act of virtue.

Do something nice or needed for others, but do it anonymously. This act can be very simple, like washing someone else’s dishes that were left in the sink, picking up trash on a sidewalk, or leaving a chocolate on a coworker’s desk.

Our favorite is paying for a future customer's coffee before walking out of a coffee shop. 

"While we humans love to receive recognition for our good deeds, there is something even more satisfying in doing something for someone anonymously." - Amy Crawley

Although this exercise is designed to bring joy to others' days, you might notice that your day becomes much more peaceful and at the same time, invigorating. 

Pay close attention to the little voice in your head that pushes you to tell others about your good deed. These thoughts are natural, but this week, make a conscious effort to let that shit go :)

Enjoy this challenge,

Alex & Em